Ramblings From a Self-Care Advocate

Hey everyone, I know its been a little while. I just wanted to give a little update!

If you follow me on Instagram, you might be aware that my boyfriend and I are starting a travel magazine, called V travel Magazine. Its going to be digital, and we’d like to have the first issue out by September 15th. This is a big endeavor and takes a lot of time and energy, and discipline, so I haven’t been able to make posts like I used to. I want to again, but maybe once per week, or once every other week. If you’d like to be a part of my life more frequently, follow me on Insta! 🙂 I usually make a post everyday or every few days on there.

Another thing I wanted to talk about is emotions. Everyone has them, and all are beneficial in one way or another. Feeling happy, joyful, and at peace are all wonderful emotions that keep your day (and life) going smoothly. Every so often our lives require different emotions to deal with what is happening. We feel sad and depressed when we lose someone, feel inadequate, or sometimes for no apparent reason. I was feeling depressed for a few months. I didn’t know why, and I didn’t even really realize I felt that way until now. I feel so much more like myself; more than I have in a while. I’ve started doing things I love again, am taking action for myself, and have decided to live the best life I possibly can. Brad and I have decided to head up to San Francisco/Berkeley and I am so fucking excited. I’ve never been up there, and I’m so glad we are finally taking the step! I think that was another reason I was feeling depressed. We were in such a routine here in San Diego, I couldn’t take it anymore.

Photo of me (Allyson DeFoor) with the sun behind me, shining through my short hair. Taken by Brad Bethell.

I wanted to experience new things, and now we are.

For anyone who is going through some type of separation, let me say, you will be okay. I had to stop talking to one of my family members, then start to heal the wounds from that relationship. I’m still healing by replacing negative feelings, thoughts, and words in my mind, to positive ones. I had a lot of negative self-talk before, but I’m getting better.

I know this was a weird post full of rambling, but I want to be authentic. I guess I’ll leave you with this:




You can change your life. Don’t let anyone run your life for you. Believe in yourself, and believe in your dreams. You’re worth more than you know right now, but soon you’ll realize.


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